Hi,
I recommend that people do not modify any mojoPortal code. As soon as you fork the code you can no longer upgrade without losing your changes and I have no interest in providing support for forked versions.
You can bypass NeatHtml in the forum by marking the user as trusted in ManageUsers.aspx.
The forum editor toolbar could also be modified by configuration to include the oembed plugin which supports youtube and others.
However I would only not mark strangers as trusted.
Please don't post advice in these forums advising people to modify mojoPortal code.
If you do want to make a change like that then make a separate skin for the forum page and put your script in layout.master rather than modify PostList.ascx
Thanks,
Joe