I still think you are mis-percieving it. If you look at the page with your event calendar and you click the gear icon next to the title of your event calendar it goes to module settings for the event calendar where you will see mostly settings for google maps. The only event calendar specific setting you will see there is a setting named "Pad Empty Days"
You will notice the url is ModuleSettings.aspx?mid=x
where mid is module id and the value of x is the module id for the content instance. The module id will not be the same as for your google map module instance as it is for your events module instance.
When viewing the module settings for the Event Calandar the left most tab will say "Event Calendar Settings" whereas if you were in the module settings for a google map instance it will say "Google Map Settings", other than that they look almost the same.
Clicking the "Add Event" link near the title of your Event Calendar is where you will see event specific things.
Hope it helps,
Joe